We all struggle with uncomfortable feelings or situations.
This state of being can form a hurdle that keeps us from making the progress or change we want to see in our lives and ourselves.
The struggle with the uncomfortable is in all reality fighting against a part of ourselves.
The friction it creates can make us feel like being stuck.
Besides the struggling, the feeling of being stuck can be quite overwhelming and adding on to the uncomfortable feelings that were already present.
Seeking distractions from these feelings is only prolonging them.
Putting off the inevitable of facing our emotional inner world and preventing us to integrate the lessons that this discomfort is bringing us.
My own experience
I’ll share my recent experience of my own struggle with discomfort with you.
Recently we lost one of our cats that was hit by a car.
He didn’t come home one day, and we didn’t know what happened.
We went out and to go and look for him every day, but we found nothing.
The first thing I noticed within myself was a deep feeling of worry that occupied my mind every day.
After 6 days, we found out that one of the neighbors in the street had found him and buried him in his garden because he didn’t know where the cat belonged.
Now knowing what had happened to Fluff really created a shock inside me, knowing his life got cut short was in a way traumatic.
For both of us, Fluff was a dear friend who will be dearly missed.
I noticed that this traumatic shock and the feeling of disbelieve, not wanting to feel the pain at first, started to become a blockage for me.
By fighting the pain that I was feeling and not giving expression to it, only made the feelings stronger.
Which in return created a situation where I was no longer being able to focus on the things that I set myself out to do.
My creativity was blocked, and I couldn’t concentrate, because I was in a form of depression.
When I started to acknowledge my feelings and emotions, allowing and expressing them fully, that is when something shifted.
The feeling of being stuck and overwhelmed transformed into inspiration and appreciation.
The pain of this loss was still there, but it no longer was pushing itself to be seen and acknowledged.
There was now more space and also the opportunity to start working and draw inspiration from this whole experience.
The lesson for me in this experience was, learn how to let go.
Not only letting go of a good friend and companion, but also letting go of my emotions and attachments.
Allowing them to move freely within myself, not holding on to them, to express them, allowing myself to feel the discomfort.
By giving myself the permission to feel and express, more space was created within myself for expansion and growth.
Yes, the pain is still there and yes I still feel the loss, but the feelings and attachments related to this loss are allowed to move freely through me.
Allowing and excepting the fullness of this experience.
The key to shifting my state of being, was allowing myself to feel and appreciate the opportunity for growth.
How is it for you?
Have you ever felt being stuck and emotionally overwhelmed in your life?
If so, was this related to an internal struggle?
